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Burtonsville, MD funeral homes

Taking Care of the Family after a Death

In and after the funeral process at Burtonsville, MD funeral homes, it is sometimes easy to forget how emotionally draining the death of a loved one is on the family. The family loses its energy reserves and hits total exhaustion quickly. Because of this, the family’s basic needs may seem just too hard for them to meet. But there are ways that you can pitch in and help so that they can be healthy and well, while staying focused on what they need to do after the death of a loved one.  

Food preparation is usually the last thing on a family’s mind after the death of a loved one. Often, some members of the family will just lose their appetite and not feel like eating at all. One of the ways you can help is to enlist friends of the family and start a daily food/meal delivery service for the family immediately after the death of their loved one and continue it for a couple of weeks after the burial. Food deliveries can range from a fast-food chicken dinner to casseroles, stews, salads, and veggies. Don’t forget to include bottled water and juices to drink as well.  

Keep a cooler with ice and a box on the front porch of the family’s home so that people can deliver their food without disturbing the family. This is an incredible way to take care of a family after the death of a loved one.  

Another way to take care of the family after a death, especially before the funeral, is to offer to run errands for what the family will need for the funeral. This may include picking up dry cleaning, getting groceries, or getting cars serviced and/or washed. There are many details involved with funerals that the family will get overwhelmed quickly. By helping the family with errands, you take some of those details off of their plates, so they can focus on the more important aspects they need to deal with.  

A third way to take care of the family after a death is to offer your services around the home. If it’s the summer time, the grass may need to be mowed. Often, family will be coming in from out of town and staying at the family home, which will generate a lot of dishes, more dirt and messiness, and a lot of laundry. By offering the family appointment times when you can drop by to help them with these things, which may seem minor, but they are not, you can help keep their stress levels at a more manageable level than they would be otherwise.  

There are many more ways that you can take of the family after a death. Enlist a group of friends and you will be giving the family a gift that is priceless.  

If you want more ideas on how to take care of the family after a death at Burtonsville, MD funeral homes, our experienced staff at Donald V. Borgwardt Funeral Home, P.A. can help you. Visit with us at our funeral home at 4400 Powder Mill Rd., Beltsville, MD, 20705, or call us today at (301) 937-1707.

Greenbelt, MD cremations

Funeral Viewing and Service Protocol

Funeral viewings and funeral services are often a part of Greenbelt, MD cremations. It’s important to understand what the proper protocol is at both funeral viewings and funeral services, because these are long-established ways to honor the deceased person and to provide comfort and support to the family that has lost a loved one.  

For funeral viewings, you should not arrive at the funeral home before the announced starting time for the family to receive visitors. Often, the family will arrive earlier and spend some time with their deceased love one. This is very personal and can be very emotional, but it gives the family some time to compose themselves for the funeral viewing and the funeral service, and it should not be interrupted by visitors coming to the funeral home early.  

Funeral viewings are less formal than funeral services, but it’s still a somber occasion, so loud, boisterous behavior among the mourners is inappropriate and disrespectful. It doesn’t mean you can’t share a light moment with the family, but just joking and laughing loudly with other people who are there is not acceptable behavior.  

With a funeral viewing, the family will be up in front of the room with the casket nearby. Mourners line up to brief talk with the family – please make sure you say something to everyone – and offer their condolences. Even if you are very close to the entire family or to a particular family member, don’t spend too much time talking to them because they or the one person you’re close to will miss being able to talk with everybody in the line, and this can lead to hurt feelings if somebody feels they were slighted.  

Once you’ve gone through the line for the viewing, head to the back of the room and, if you’re staying for the funeral service, find a seat as far back as you can and as close to the end of a row as you are able. You can talk quietly with other mourners, but this is not the time or the place to catch up on all the news from someone you haven’t seen in a while or to discuss work with a colleague.  

Seating for the funeral service, except for the family, always starts at the back. Depending on how large the family is, there may be one of several rows reserved from them in the very front, usually on the right-hand side of the room, where the casket is. If the funeral service is closed-casket, the family will be taken to a private area while the funeral home staff close the casket, and then brought back in for the funeral service.  

Mourners should seat themselves in such a way so that no one has to walk over them to get an empty seat. Generally, the seats should fill in starting with the one furthest from the center aisle, which is where people enter the rows to sit down. This is just a simple courtesy.  

Refrain from talking during the funeral service. The funeral service is usually a solemn service, and talking is not only disruptive, but it is also disrespectful to the deceased and the family of the deceased.  

If you need more guidance on funeral viewings and services before Greenbelt, MD cremations, our knowledgeable team at Donald V. Borgwardt Funeral Home, P.A. can help. You can visit with us at our funeral home at 4400 Powder Mill Rd., Beltsville, MD, 20705, or you can contact us today at (301) 937-1707.

Adelphi, MD funeral homes

Preplanning Your Funeral

Preplanning your funeral at Adelphi, MD funeral homes is an excellent way to ensure that your wishes for how your remains are disposed of are honored. Preplanning your funeral also relieves your family of the additional stress of trying to honor your memory while they are dealing with losing you and the grief they are feeling as a result.  

Preplanning your funeral may or may not include prepayment for the funeral. If you decide not to prepay for your funeral, it’s advisable to be sure that you have a burial insurance policy that’s designated exclusively to cover all the expenses of your funeral.   

One option for this kind of insurance policy may be to convert a portion of insurance coverage you already have into a burial insurance policy. For example, when you purchase a home, you typically purchase insurance to cover the home (not the contents, which is a separate policy) and this is usually the full value of the mortgage. As you pay the mortgage down, you may be able to convert a portion of that home insurance into a separate policy that’s designated for your funeral expenses. Your insurance agent can help determine if this is an option available to you.  

For a traditional funeral and burial, you will need to obtain a cemetery plot. If you are a military veteran, you are entitled to a military funeral, which includes a grave site, at no cost to you and your family. If you are a member of a church that has a cemetery, you may be entitled to a free grave site in its cemetery. A final option may be to obtain a free grave site in a family cemetery where you have relatives already buried.  

You will next need to choose your casket. While this doesn’t necessarily mean you purchase the casket now, you should specify the type of casket you want. Then you’ll need to plan your funeral service. Include scriptures, poems, or anything else you want read as part of the service and any music you want to be included. Be sure to specify who will oversee the funeral service and give contact information for that person.  

Finally, you can specify burial arrangements and what you want and don’t want in terms of services. For example, although the funeral home can transport your family in a limousine to the cemetery, it will incur an extra cost for your funeral. So it’s less expensive for your family to follow the hearse in their own cars. 

Be sure to write everything related to your funeral preplanning down. If there are charities that you want people to donate to in lieu of sending flowers, be sure to include those. Write out your funeral service. You can even write your own obituary. But everything should be in writing and with your important papers, either in a home safe or at a bank safety deposit box (include the information for your burial insurance policy and who to contact to get the money).  

It’s important to also give a copy to the person in your family who will be handling your funeral. And finally, you should let your family know about your funeral preplanning so that everybody’s in the loop and there are no surprises after you die.  

Our Adelphi, MD funeral homes experienced staff members at Donald V. Borgwardt Funeral Home, P.A. can assist you with all your funeral preplanning questions and needs. You can visit us at our funeral home at 4400 Powder Mill Rd., Beltsville, MD, 20705. We can be reached at any time, day or night, for immediate assistance, so call us today at (301) 937-1707.